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Have We Gone Too Far?: The Male Gaze, Pick Me’s & People Pleasing ft. Adella Afadi
When it comes to social movements, humans tend to swing from one extreme to another. Today we sit down with our good sis Adella Afadi to ask the question, have we gone too far with some of our responses to internet trends and conversations on the male gaze, being a ‘pick me’ and recovering from people pleasing?
💌 Introducing our guest
Adella Afadi is a social commentator, UA-camr and host, with a unique skill of bringing deep, nuanced and fun conversations and theories to the internet.
UA-cam: www.youtube.com/@AdellaAfadi
Instagram: adellaafadi
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@adellaafadi
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Welcome to the conversation with Adella Afadi
03:02 Asking Your Questions: Marriage, Celibacy & Self-discovery
13:25 Finding Balance: The Male Gaze, Pick Me’s & People Pleasing
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At heart, To My Sisters is the fast-growing digital sisterhood founded to help women across the world leverage friendship and community to manifest their greatest ambitions.
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‘Life is short, have an affair’ Ashley Madison, The Ultimatum SA, 8-year Situationships #TMSHottakes
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Marriage and commitment is hard, but cheating might not be the answer… Join your favourite online sisters as they share their thoughts on Netlfix’s The Ultimatum South Africa and the Ashley Madison Scandal. Plus in the exclusive audio they delve into thoughts on the Diddy, Jalen Noble and modern men. ☀️📚🇬🇭 DONATE to build the Bright Future Academy: www.tomysisters.com/donate 📚 ORDER our book he...
Healing Our Relationships With Men: Men's Podcasts, Daddy Issues & Finances and Dating
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Your favourite online sisters are back! In this episode, they reflect on the conversations they had with the brothers on fatherhood, marriage, dating and the gender wars. They share thoughts on how to approach toxic relationships with parents, the importance of healing, and financial management in romantic relationships. ☀️📚🇬🇭 DONATE to build the Bright Future Academy: www.tomysisters.com/donat...
Men Share Lessons from 35 Years of Marriage, Fatherhood & Raising Confident Daughters
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'Daddy Issues' and exploring our relationships with father figures as topics we haven't shied away from on the To My Sisters Podcast, and in this episode, we sit down with the wonderful Tope & Ije to discuss the lessons they've learned from being married for a combined 35 years. They share wisdom on the power of commitment, selflessness, and how they've approached raising confident daughters de...
Why Do Men Move MAD? Talking to MEN about Building Healthy Marriages, Character & Friendships
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The time has come for us to sit down with some brothers and discuss dating, marriage, character development and ultimately explore the gender wars! In today's episode we sit down with two friends and great men in our lives; Claud & Kenny, to discuss how can men and women come to a place of understanding and friendship to build community and healthy platonic and romantic relationships. 💌 Introdu...
Embracing a New Season: Female Friendships Are Complex, Healing & The Future of This Podcast...
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In this episode, your favourite online sisters discuss the future of the To My Sisters Podcast, the good, bad, and ugly sides to female friendships and relationships with other women in general. And they explore how being intentional about community building can revolutionise your whole life. ☀️📚🇬🇭 DONATE to build the Bright Future Academy: www.tomysisters.com/donate 📚 ORDER our book here: link...
Where Do We Unsubscribe From ADULTING? Boycotting the Met Gala #TMSHottakes
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Your favourite online sisters are back with another episode of their thoughts on life and internet culture. From wanting to unsubscribe from adulthood to boycotting celebrities after the Met Gala and the nature of modern-day social activism. ☀️📚🇬🇭 DONATE to build the Bright Future Academy: www.tomysisters.com/donate 📚 ORDER our book here: linktr.ee/tomysisters 💌 Sign up to the mailing list: www...
'We Need to STOP Making These DATING MISTAKES!' - Social Media, Boundaries & Standards
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'We Need to STOP Making These DATING MISTAKES!' - Social Media, Boundaries & Standards
Youthforia Blackface Makeup, the Sassy Man Apocalypse, and Drake vs Kendrick Lamar #TMSHottakes
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Youthforia Blackface Makeup, the Sassy Man Apocalypse, and Drake vs Kendrick Lamar #TMSHottakes
"Don’t Cross My Line": Navigating Boundaries & Respect When Dating
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"Don’t Cross My Line": Navigating Boundaries & Respect When Dating
Single Mother Slander, Drawing Out Your Friends & 'Veneer Techs'?! #TMSHottakes
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Single Mother Slander, Drawing Out Your Friends & 'Veneer Techs'?! #TMSHottakes
'It'll Be Worth The Wait Sis': Cultivating Patience, Hope & Character in the Waiting Season
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'It'll Be Worth The Wait Sis': Cultivating Patience, Hope & Character in the Waiting Season
"Ride or Die" Only Ends One Way Sis: Dating Red Flags & Influencers Going Back to 9-5's
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"Ride or Die" Only Ends One Way Sis: Dating Red Flags & Influencers Going Back to 9-5's
Existing Loudly: Overcoming Shame, Discouragement & Haters in Your Life
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Existing Loudly: Overcoming Shame, Discouragement & Haters in Your Life
Trad Wife Aesthetic, Mrs. White, Chanel Bag on the First Date & UK Thanos Strikes Again #TMSHottakes
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Trad Wife Aesthetic, Mrs. White, Chanel Bag on the First Date & UK Thanos Strikes Again #TMSHottakes
Letting Go of YOUR PLAN: Finding Purpose, Contentment & Spiritual Alignment in a Materialistic World
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Letting Go of YOUR PLAN: Finding Purpose, Contentment & Spiritual Alignment in a Materialistic World
Ghosting Your Wife, He Had a Baby On Me, Gluttony, Old School TV, Men Can’t Paint? #TMSHottakes
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Ghosting Your Wife, He Had a Baby On Me, Gluttony, Old School TV, Men Can’t Paint? #TMSHottakes
The Evil of Hollywood: Quiet on Set, Diddy Allegations and Keeping Integrity With Money and Power
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The Evil of Hollywood: Quiet on Set, Diddy Allegations and Keeping Integrity With Money and Power
We're In Our Social Commentary Bag: Diddy, Illuminati, Tumelo, South Korean 4B Feminist Movement
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We're In Our Social Commentary Bag: Diddy, Illuminati, Tumelo, South Korean 4B Feminist Movement
'Til Death Do Us Part: Broken Marriages, The Rise in Divorces, and Demonising the Modern Woman
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'Til Death Do Us Part: Broken Marriages, The Rise in Divorces, and Demonising the Modern Woman
Ding Ding Dilemmas: My Mum Had a Dream He'd Ruin My Life... + More #TMSHotTakes
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Ding Ding Dilemmas: My Mum Had a Dream He'd Ruin My Life... More #TMSHotTakes
Lessons Learned in 2024 So Far: Spirituality, Mental Health, Celebrating Your Wins & Self-Care
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Lessons Learned in 2024 So Far: Spirituality, Mental Health, Celebrating Your Wins & Self-Care
Overcoming Depression, The Edited Photos Epidemic, and The Sisters Are Robbing a Bank?! #TMSHotTakes
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Overcoming Depression, The Edited Photos Epidemic, and The Sisters Are Robbing a Bank?! #TMSHotTakes
From a Girl to a Woman: How to Grow in Maturity, Wisdom and Confidence.
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From a Girl to a Woman: How to Grow in Maturity, Wisdom and Confidence.
Tamara I'm Sorry: Tomfoolery from Men, Marrying Young, The Girls Are Getting Divorces #TMSHotTakes
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Tamara I'm Sorry: Tomfoolery from Men, Marrying Young, The Girls Are Getting Divorces #TMSHotTakes
Stop Ignoring Those RED FLAGS: Confronting Toxic Behaviour & Taking Accountability in Relationships
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Stop Ignoring Those RED FLAGS: Confronting Toxic Behaviour & Taking Accountability in Relationships
Love is Blind Nonsense, Tyler Perry's Mea Culpa, Tyler Perry & Grown High Schoolers #TMSHotTakes
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Love is Blind Nonsense, Tyler Perry's Mea Culpa, Tyler Perry & Grown High Schoolers #TMSHotTakes
A Legion of Lies: Lessons & Wisdom Women Can Take From Reesa Teesa’s ‘Who TF Did I Marry?!’ Story
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A Legion of Lies: Lessons & Wisdom Women Can Take From Reesa Teesa’s ‘Who TF Did I Marry?!’ Story
Who TF Did I Marry?! Your Sister in Law is Your Valentine? Bare Minimum Romance + more #TMSHotTakes
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Who TF Did I Marry?! Your Sister in Law is Your Valentine? Bare Minimum Romance more #TMSHotTakes
'Healing' Isn't Straight Forward: The Reality of Generational Trauma, Fear, & Battling Cycles
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'Healing' Isn't Straight Forward: The Reality of Generational Trauma, Fear, & Battling Cycles

КОМЕНТАРІ

  • @otuawan8341
    @otuawan8341 2 години тому

    😂😂😂 "when I'm rich I will be rich" tell them!!

  • @gl0hen
    @gl0hen День тому

    I WAS SO HAPPY WHEN RENEE SNUCK INTO FRAME!!!!!!

  • @tpl2401
    @tpl2401 День тому

    I needed to hear this

  • @mykeajohnson3060
    @mykeajohnson3060 2 дні тому

    My favs! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @Jaida2888
    @Jaida2888 3 дні тому

    I’m tired of being broke smh I’m tryna make money

  • @gl0hen
    @gl0hen 4 дні тому

    me 20 seconds into the episode: THE HAIR!!!! SISTERS, YALL LOOK INCREDIBLE!!!!

  • @gl0hen
    @gl0hen 4 дні тому

    this was absolutely beautiful!!!!

  • @rochellea7042
    @rochellea7042 4 дні тому

    I enjoyed this episode soo much. I came across both of your accounts around the same time at the beginning of the pandemic in 2020. This collaboration was dueeeeee. Much luv <3🥰

  • @Rareisbeautiful
    @Rareisbeautiful 4 дні тому

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @hinatalieclaire
    @hinatalieclaire 4 дні тому

    Thank you! Such a powerful and inspiring episode. Truly a blessing.

  • @faithopoku-addo5620
    @faithopoku-addo5620 4 дні тому

    Khanya is annoying and revolting, she only wanted to marry Nkateko to have a child not because she loved him but even after all that, they're not married and have a child outside of wedlock 🤨🤔😤what a coincidence.

  • @Rareisbeautiful
    @Rareisbeautiful 5 днів тому

    So funny and loved the conversation ❤

  • @Cairo21
    @Cairo21 5 днів тому

    I get what Adella is talking about people hating on influencers once they get to a certain level and I have seen it happen to those influencers she named, its so vile.

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      It can be so disillusioning 🫣

  • @tanyciagrace9556
    @tanyciagrace9556 5 днів тому

    Love the guest's openness! Courtney, hopefully the guest you've had on will help you to be vulnerable about yourself on this channel about how you perceive yourself, your thoughts on the male gaze and your celibacy journey. You've never shared. Great conversation today girlies!

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      Hey sis! Thank you for your thoughts and glad you enjoyed the episode 🥰 we tend to allow the guest a bit more space to share their thoughts - esp because Courts already has so much content out on her own journey on the male gaze, desirability, and celibacy and in past TMS episodes. Good to know a reiteration may be needed ❤️

  • @aakshi.
    @aakshi. 5 днів тому

    YOOOOO THE TMS JUMPER ON RENEE!!! 😮😮😮😮😮❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 5 днів тому

      GREAT SPOT 🥰🥰🥰🥰👀👀👀👀👀👀

    • @aakshi.
      @aakshi. 5 днів тому

      @@tomysisters I SMELL MERCH👀👀👀👀👀👀🤩🤩🤩🤩

  • @Cryonic7740
    @Cryonic7740 5 днів тому

    omg, my two favorite channels coming together!? This feels like when you used to watch Disney and your fav character from one show features in an episode in another show ❤❤ edit to add how funny it is Courtney also said this!

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      Great minds think ALIKE ❤❤

  • @hinatalieclaire
    @hinatalieclaire 6 днів тому

    Such an amazing episode. A lot of appreciation for the conversation you had here and for sharing the good men in your lives with us.

  • @gloriakanani1026
    @gloriakanani1026 6 днів тому

    Love Adel’s, she is so pretty and funny❤❤❤❤❤

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      Isn't she just the best!!! ❤❤

  • @Valenciaatmako
    @Valenciaatmako 6 днів тому

    Look who walked in 😂❤

  • @lastnamebase
    @lastnamebase 6 днів тому

    Such a lovely convo! It also reminded me of how often times Christian women want a guy who knows God but not per se a man of God because of the lack of roughness and the "cringe".

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      Everyday 'Christian men with edge' 😭 how about the edge of the CROSS!!!

  • @ChiChiorWura
    @ChiChiorWura 6 днів тому

    OMG It’s Adellaaa

  • @Sincerelyprisca
    @Sincerelyprisca 6 днів тому

    The collaboration I didn’t know I needed to see. Love me some Adelle 🫶🏾🙏🏾.

  • @itumelenglelosa4627
    @itumelenglelosa4627 6 днів тому

    My faves 🥰❤️

  • @KP-zh8fn
    @KP-zh8fn 6 днів тому

    Thank you so much 🙏🏾 These episodes with the male perspective have been phenomenal, truly a blessing 💗

  • @aliceshambamuto3100
    @aliceshambamuto3100 6 днів тому

    Lovely conversation. When Adella was talking about the hate towards women who hv reached an 'untouchable', what came to my mind as a psychologist is a concept called relational aggression. I think it can helps us understand why we end up being that way. But thoroughly enjoyed listening to you young ladies ❤ Courtney love you mucho ❤❤❤

  • @ibimax-harry
    @ibimax-harry 6 днів тому

    This was such a wholesome episode. The chat about the male gaze was great but the mutual encouragement at the end took everything to another level. I feel like I eavesdropped on a great conversation between two great women! Thank you so much for sharing!

  • @rochelle1199
    @rochelle1199 7 днів тому

    Excited for this one!! Love Adella

    • @cosmiccrush22
      @cosmiccrush22 6 днів тому

      Same she's a gem, they all are, I follow both ❤️

    • @rochelle1199
      @rochelle1199 4 дні тому

      @@cosmiccrush22 me too xx

  • @ntamieborty
    @ntamieborty 7 днів тому

    When I am rich, I am rich!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @famat.6447
    @famat.6447 7 днів тому

    Haaaaa love Adella so much ! Excited for this one 🥳🥳

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 5 днів тому

      Haha we love her too! Hope you enjoyed❤

  • @Cryonic7740
    @Cryonic7740 7 днів тому

    What an insightful episode, thank you so much ladies for bringing the gentlemen on.

  • @allthingsmihlali
    @allthingsmihlali 7 днів тому

    What a powerful conversation ❤️

  • @MaMgazi
    @MaMgazi 7 днів тому

    “You settle consciously”

  • @PT-zz9ks
    @PT-zz9ks 9 днів тому

    On the Ultimatum SA both of the couples that had been together for 7 - 8 years had been together since they were in their early 20s and were now in their mid/late 20s so the timelines on marriage were very normal

  • @aakshi.
    @aakshi. 10 днів тому

    aweeee missed the sofas you knowww🥺

  • @ursulanzimande9515
    @ursulanzimande9515 10 днів тому

    Can we have this episode on spotify plss

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      All our episodes are available on Spotify ✨

  • @jennym3014
    @jennym3014 10 днів тому

    Hi ladies and listeners. I wanted to add to what was mentioned about why do some couples who want to get married move in together first. From the pov of someone who lives in the USA, divorcing can be quite painful and expensive versus breaking up and just worrying about moving out and healing your heart.

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      Great context to add into the mix. Thank you for sharing 🫶🏽

  • @lifefaithworks
    @lifefaithworks 10 днів тому

    keeping me updated on pop culture without me having to engage thanks girls.

  • @Faith-sr8zw
    @Faith-sr8zw 10 днів тому

    I looooved the ultimatum SA but it is the most unethical concept. I would never join it personally but I hope more silly couples join the show for our entertainment

    • @Faith-sr8zw
      @Faith-sr8zw 10 днів тому

      Nah I know I sound horrible

  • @letsalltakeawalk6906
    @letsalltakeawalk6906 10 днів тому

    Khanya's behavior was so revolting to me 💀 to be saying how she's so classy and has high standards, and then be throwing tantrums after shaming and antagonizing people was unbearable. I got so mad when the only thing she apologized for was body shaming.

  • @user-jw1bl4hq9j
    @user-jw1bl4hq9j 10 днів тому

    LIFE IS SHORT …..DO NOT MAKE IT MISERABLE FOR THE CHEATED ON …..PEOPLE RESENT YOU FOR LIFE and WILL MAKE THE CHEATER PAY IN MANY , MANY WAYS 😉

  • @masechabamakola4181
    @masechabamakola4181 10 днів тому

    Rene coming in with the names!!! Girl??!!

  • @thegogetterbymaletjemamath3166
    @thegogetterbymaletjemamath3166 10 днів тому

    What a lovely conversation 🤍

  • @jenniferavila2703
    @jenniferavila2703 10 днів тому

    Yay! Hot takes! SN: my therapist follows ya! 🫶🏾

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 10 днів тому

      HEY sis! Not a co-sign from our therapist - tell em we said hi 🥹✨✨

  • @ChamiaRochaee
    @ChamiaRochaee 11 днів тому

    I’ve never been this early.. I love it😂🎉

  • @ntamieborty
    @ntamieborty 11 днів тому

    y'all look so fineeeeee.....

  • @ashlee2308
    @ashlee2308 11 днів тому

    Whewwwwwwww the girls are COOKING this episode!!! Thank you for holding these powerful & necessary conversations!

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      Hello somebody! Glad you enjoyed ❤️

  • @danie__colle
    @danie__colle 11 днів тому

    I really love this conversation

  • @mbanjo3764
    @mbanjo3764 11 днів тому

    Listened to today's episode with my Mum: she was so impressed by the knowledge you guys put down! You have a new subscriber in my Mum for sure 😁💓

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters 3 дні тому

      Special shout out to mumsy 🥰🥰🥰 glad she enjoyed and so honoured to have her as part of the sisterhood!